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Why do you sometimes feel alone even when you are in the middle of the full room?

Why do you sometimes feel alone even when you are in the middle of the full room?

Do you sometimes feel alone like you are alone in the middle of a room full of people? Or do you only feel alone when you are really alone? I sometimes feel alone in both cases. What about you?

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Why do you sometimes feel alone even when you are in the middle of the full room?

I don’t know about you but for me, it is that the older I get the harder is for me to fit in somewhere, have empty conversations with people who don’t interest me or be part of a group where I don’t belong.

I think I’ve gotten to the point in my life where I’d rather be alone than among people I don’t want to be with. Does that sound silly or antisocial? If yes please stop reading right now!

But if you know what I mean… welcome here! I guess we are in the same wave. So let’s think about it for a moment…

Why is that? Why do you sometimes feel alone even when you are in the middle of the full room?

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Today, the trend is to be a strong and successful person. People go to break their fingers to quickly brag to literally everyone on social networks. They smile in public and wear stylish clothes. They have perfect hair and a million ready answers to the question of how you are, which will only confirm their social status in the best light.

Simply put, having a great life is trendy. Especially on social networks.

A person who has failed in something claims that it was not really important anyway and did not care about the matter. And then there’s a plethora of positive statuses that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Nobody wants to read negative statuses. No one will sympathize with someone who is going through a hard time. People enjoy someone else misfortune because it shows their lives in a better light. Or sympathize with him but only in silence. Being unhappy or unsuccessful is simply not trendy.

But what it does to us and our soul?

Why do you sometimes feel alone
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You are in a room full of people who are convinced that your life is perfect and they may even envy it. You have their admiration and respect. And then suddenly a forgotten memory on Facebook pops up on you and something moves inside you. But unfortunately, you are surrounded by super people and therefore you still have to look super cool. So you put on your super mask and keep going.

Do you know the feeling?

I do. Very well…

I used to constantly experience it. Today less but still. When I moved to Bournemouth, I was completely at the beginning of my journey.

I didn’t know how to deal with myself and my own loneliness. I didn’t know that is different between being alone and be lonely. I spent a lot of time with different groups of people, often just because I didn’t want to be alone and I didn’t want others to think I was a looser. But when I got home, only four walls and solitude awaited me.

I couldn’t enjoy myself and my own company and that’s why I often cried and thought about what I was doing wrong and why I had to try so hard to be in someone’s company. I felt alone.

I posted a photo where we all have great fun, but in fact, I didn’t know those people very well. I didn’t really know who they were and what they liked. And they didn’t know me. I often wondered why this was so. Do they really have such a great life and I just don’t fit in there? Am I weird?

People become estranged because they feel that others do not understand them. Because they didn’t survive what we did, and they have no idea how we feel. But what if they survived … maybe the same, maybe something similar and maybe something worse.

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What if I’m not the only one who feels alone in the middle of the room full of people and who feels like doesn’t fit in there?

How does a person who feels broken by pain and disappointment, but everyone around him behaves as if it didn’t matter? As if a breakup, the loss of a loved one, loneliness, a shipwreck in the work area was “just like that”? He begins to think that he is exaggerating, that he is probably overreacting too much and that he is strange. He encloses his suffering in a small box somewhere at the bottom of his soul and tries to move on. He tries to move on.

But can such a person really move on completely without any change? I don’t think so.

I think that every time a person experiences any disappointment or something happens to him, something in him changes. He will lose a piece of his soul, and if he doesn’t get it out of himself, then his soul will never be okay. He will never be cured. It will accompany him all his life.

I’ve been waiting a long time for blogging and public writing. I was afraid of what people would think when they read that my life is not always as great as it might seem or that they would alienate me when I expressed my opinion and they did not agree with it.

Somewhere in the process of my personal development, a turning point occurred.

I told myself I don’t care anymore. Let everyone think what they want to think because no one but me lives my life. And maybe they don’t even care what I do with my life, because everyone is too busy with the shit of their own lives, so why limit yourself.

Plus, I realized that there’s probably someone like me out there who’s afraid to come out of his shell. Maybe he just needs to know that it’s okay and that he’s not alone.

So sometimes I feel alone in the middle of a room full of people because I simply feel that way. I will not let just random people into my personal world, because it is my world and I respect it. And it’s okay. And it’s also okay not to have a perfect life full of tinsel and sequins. It’s okay to talk about it or not to talk about it if you just don’t want to. It’s okay to not be okay.

2 thoughts on “Why do you sometimes feel alone even when you are in the middle of the full room?

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      This is so relatable and inspirational! You make me want to go into my room, shut the door and read a good book! Cheers to you.

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      I am single and my kids grown. I am alone and have moved to three different states where I no absolutely no one. When you can live alone and be by yourself, I think you have accomplished something. When I moved to TN I met two other women who were doing the same thing. NO man, our children raised and it is time for ourselves. It has been fun and I really learned about the American Feedom.

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