Menstruation: privileged club for women only
Always a few days before and during my menstruation or a period, if you prefer, my world crashes. Do you know that feeling, dear woman? All the accumulated feelings, hormones, and emotions suddenly roll out and completely overwhelm me. I feel like the world is falling apart under my feet, and I don’t know what to do to keep it together, to keep myself buried.
Do you know that feeling?
If yes, welcome to the privileged club for women only.
This club is not one of the most popular. But membership in it is indeed limited to women, and that never happens in any club. So we should actually feel privileged. We should feel special. I feel that way, but not before and during my period.
When I write this, I am having a period. Plus its lockdown and it’s all kind of different.
The only advantage is that I can lie in bed all day because I have no real responsibilities, only the ones I set myself so I wouldn’t go crazy. Well, I have my period, so my responsibilities aren’t important to me. I just want to lie in bed under my heated blanket with tons of sweets, my hot water bottle, which I call Sergio, which always relieves my pain at least a little bit. And burns my belly.
When I am menstruating, I simply don’t feel Fabulous, nor do I feel myself. All I feel is that the world is falling apart.
It usually lasts for me about two intense days.
My boyfriend turns into an invisible fairy, which I love, and he knows that I love him, but he also knows that in this period I completely irrationally hate him because he is a man. And I’m a woman with pain and hormones, and I’m behaving in a way that every feminist could be ashamed of me.
Or I am not alone in it? Do we all belong to that privileged menstruation club?
Whenever I am menstruating, the world falls apart. I act completely irrationally, listening to sad songs and watching tragic movies. And by writing it now, I realize how irrational it sounds, but it’s still happening to me, and I know, I hope, I’m not the only one who has it that way.
I went to this lockdown in a very strange mood. So menstruation is the last thing I need.
Well, since I’m in that club and I have to visit that club regularly every month, I said to myself that I will deal with it like everything. Positively.
I’ve written an article about how to get rid of a bad mood, if you haven’t seen it, you’ll find it here. In this article, I mentioned several ways to get rid of a bad mood, but for me, especially during menstruation, one was especially successful. And that’s walking.
How easy will you say, but do you know how difficult it is to get yourself out of that weather during menstruation? During that huge winter, the negative covid-19 when I have all the warmth and sweets I need in bed?
It’s almost an impossible feat, but…
I try to keep my whole lockdown active. Especially physically, because after all, this is the third lockdown, and I don’t want to look like a pig before the summer. That wouldn’t help my psyche. You know very well, woman, how you feel when you’re not happy with yourself. So I said to myself that I would exercise regularly, limit the sweets and I would somehow motivate myself to be happy. Because I want to be Fabulous again, not only artificially, but that I would feel really that way.
I don’t exercise during menstruation.
I can’t and don’t want because of everything I’ve written to you above. And now you may say I’m exaggerating, but I really feel like during my menstruation the world is crashing, and when the world is crashing, I don’t have time to exercise, because I have to save it.
And poor my boyfriend has to deal with the streams of tears that I create everywhere I go and my mood, and that’s why he’s actually turning into that invisible fairy at that time. But I want to say that I don’t exercise at this time, but I try to motivate to do at least small walks. And during walking, I feel that my feet are somehow more on the ground and that I have more control over my menstruation.
My period has certain stages, and when I finally figured it out, I work better with it.
The first stage is my period before menstruation.
I try to actively use my time because I know it is coming. I try to create a pleasant mood, eat my favourite food, do only positive things and I’m not looking for anything demanding or complicated. At that time, I try to keep an emotional distance from people and conflicts. And of course, I avoid mirrors.
The second stage is my first day when I ignore the whole world.
I just sleep, watch TV, eat and think about life and how the world is falling apart and what I will do and all those philosophical questions that I have no answer to, and that I don’t even remember them the next day. I’m not communicating. Please tell me, dear woman, that I am not alone in this.
The third stage is when I start to realize that I’m not actually sick.
And I have to do something otherwise, I will wake up remorse, and it’s not good in this menstrual world. You know what I mean. So I wake up with a magical feeling that I can do everything that I want and that a positive attitude is the best. This then holds and motivates me for my walk or my movement. It’s not always like that, every month, but it’s usually like that.
Movement, oxygen and breathing.
This trio is my magic key to surviving during menstruation. And when I think about it, it’s not just during my period. Movement is my key whenever I lose ground under my feet and everything looks just black.
Even scientists say that exercise in the fresh air helps not only physically but also mentally. And when they say that, it must be true. Hahaha
But how, especially during menstruation, how to force yourself to movement?
I can’t answer that, dear woman, so completely. Because although we are all in the same menstruation privileged club for women only, we have a different position in it, and different rules apply to each one of us. I can just sincerely support you, no matter what you decide to do. You may just want to lie down and wait until its all over. I will not judge you. I am in that women club with you.
But I can tell you one thing.
Your relationship with menstruation is like any other relationship. You have to build it and understand it. And when you start and learn it, it won’t all be magically great, I won’t lie to you, but your position in the club will improve. And that’s a game-changer. Trust me.
It’s about finding your own way, your own position, not only during menstruation but actually in life in general…or…